Quality Time

Quality time or “time spent” is one of the five love languages I am covering today. Most of us will be spending more time at home with the spread of the Covid-19 Virus, so how are we spending our time? And with whom if anyone? With all this activity going on I am just thankful the last two art shows went off with out a hitch! The Five love languages group exhibit had an amazing turn-out, it was a wish come true that A.E.H. Studio was packed full Feb 22nd 2020. I have been needing to cover this and to post pictures on the blog but man I was on cloud nine for a whole month that I forgot to post! Click here for artist/musician interviews.

I got to see a dream of mine come true right before my eyes. If translated into a Tarot card it would be a 6 of staves moment, a victory lap! I just want to thank all the artists and musicians I know for being a part of it and being you! A special thank you to all the patrons of the arts who bought local work especially who made an appearance.

Back to quality time….the point of the artshow was to bring the community OUT and TOGETHER. I really have been spending more time alone for the last two months to do my work but I also met TONS of new people thanks to the Art Exhibit I curated at the studio. Most of Lacrosse is working from home, I haven’t been quarantining myself from loved ones & friends, I think it is essential to see at least someone and hangout (and still be creating new things.) I just have to say when I spend quality time it is usually one-on-one. Its not my favorite love language for it really is hard for me to focus in group settings. In my intimate / close relationships I like to dive deep intellectually and spiritually to really see where that person is at. I also need others to want that of me. If that need isn’t there then that means the relationship wont deepen (which I need) then compatibility isn’t there. Everyone’s needs for time spent are different. Some people just need a friend to vent to. Some just need surface level happy relationships so they dont have to dive deep and truly show themselves. Unfortunately most people fall into the surface level relationship category. In order to deepen your relationship with someone I have a few nuggets of gold for you. ASK QUESTIONS –be curious about that persons likes and dislikes, what is on there mind predominately. HOW DO THEY SHOW THEIR LOVE- invest some time together and see how they communicate. BOUNDARIES- what are your boundaries that need to be in place and what are theirs? MEET IN THE MIDDLE- compromise in conversations. Step 2 steps forward and perhaps they will feel comfortable to do the same.

I got to see and swim in the ocean this year prior to the travel bans. I spent some quality time alone on Miami Beach waiting for the day to unfold with a friend.

With love and light always,

Ashton